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Figuring Out Father

A friend recently asked me, “If your father wasn’t a good role model, is it hard to figure out how to relate to God as your Heavenly Father?” It is such a good question because we all assume God is kind of like our dads. Intellectually, we know that He is perfect, wise and loving but our emotions don’t always listen to our minds. We spent our most formative years adjusting to our dads so our impression of what it means to be a father is ingrained in our instincts. If your dad was a solid example, this is good news. Your understanding of God as your Heavenly Father will be healthy, dependable and encouraging. If, however, your dad was unpredictable, severely inconsistent, uninvolved or non-existent, you have a lot to overcome.
This question was hovering in my mind when I read Ephesians 5:17-20 today. I noticed in this passage a number of truths about God as our Dad that I want to hold onto and make instinctive:
• He wants us to find and fulfill our unique contribution to life. “Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” God has a will and it includes us. His will is mature, focused and effective. That is why the opposite of it is referred to as foolishness. God knows who you are and what you were designed for. As a faithful Father, He is working to help you discover your purpose.
• He wants us to be energetic and powerful. “Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.” When someone is under the influence of alcohol, he says things he wouldn’t normally say, does things he wouldn’t normally do and has a boldness about him that is not characteristic of his ordinary life. In the same way, the Holy Spirit was put in us by our Father to give us words, actions and attitudes that can influence others.
• He wants us to have healthy relationships. The natural result of being under the influence of the Holy Spirit is we speak “to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit.” And we will “sing and make music from your heart to the Lord.” This doesn’t mean we walk around singing all the time and answering everyone with music. It does mean we will naturally encourage others to grow and we will seek to include Jesus in our lives in a daily, natural way.
• He wants us to have a positive, grateful attitude. “. . . always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Zig Ziglar is famous for saying, “A positive attitude will not allow you to everything. But a positive attitude will allow you to do everything better than a negative attitude will.”
These are things all of our dads ought to have equipped us for in life. Some of you reading this can rejoice because your dad did that for you. Others of you just feel a void. We can all move forward from here, however. We can learn from God’s word the truth about God as our Father and we can help the next generation get a head start.

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